Comparison and Shame

My computer has died and my husband is home for vacation this month; so posting is a challenge.  But before my my daily quiet time, one of my (most admired and amazing) sweet sisters-in-Christ shared something that showed me just how far off course I have been in my thoughts lately.  Then when I read John 21, the end of verse 23 God revealed some more truths to me.

It is from this exchange with Jesus that some thought this disciple would not die. But Jesus never said that. He said, “If I choose for him to remain till I return, what difference will this make to you?”  

John 21:23 Voice

We can’t compare the path that was given to us to another.  God didn’t want two Peter’s or two John’s; he created one of each, because each has a specific God given purpose.  Your path is different than mine, and ours is different from others; yet each can only accomplish what God intended only if we are following God (not others), fixing our eyes on Him – NOT being distracted with what anyone else is doing (or isn’t doing).

I have a very bad habit of comparing myself to other wives or mothers, it’s easy to see where I fall short and very rarely I see where I do better, but this comparison never helps me in my walk with God – instead it only create more problems.

Don’t let the lies and the shame we place on ourselves distort the truth of God.  Bring all the mistakes and regrets we’ve tried to conceal and carry to His feet, ask for forgiveness and find the mercy and grace He’s already given us.  Ask God to help us keep our focus on Him, not on our past or others, so that we could accomplish the purpose He has given us.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12:1-3‬ ‭NIV‬‬